Having trouble figuring out how to use rclone with an existing remote DLNA server

welcome to the forum,

i do a similar thing but use tailscale.
that way insecure software such as minidlna and rclone serve dlna are not exposed to the open internet.
else can use wireguard, mullvad vpn or openvpn

fwiw, i have a howto guide
https://forum.rclone.org/t/rclone-on-termux-turn-your-android-phone-into-a-media-server/16064